query for Fred (or anyone else) on movie line

[Laurence Horn]

The line, which I just came across in a novel, exists in at least two
versions, possibly from two different movies, one of which may
originally be Bull Durham, but there may have been some mangling
along the way.  This is the basic template:

"(And) when you speak of me (and you will (speak of me)), (please)
speak kindly/speak well/be kind."

I'm not sure whether any or all of the parenthetical material is in
the original(s), and whether there really are two different
"original" versions out there.  My notoriously unreliable memory
wants to  put the line into the mouth of an older woman (a Mrs.
Robinson type) addressing her younger lover, but some of the google
hits attribute it to the Kevin Costner character (Crash Davis) in
Bull Durham rather than with the Susan Sarandon (Annie) character, so
I'm even more confused than before I looked.

Fred, do you have this in your movie quote database in one version or another?

Larry