Another kind of buddy

[Chris Blankenship]

"Therefore for a woman to refer to a male lover as a "fuck buddy" is odd,
since women do not generally refer to male friends as "buddies".
Equally odd for a man (or for that matter a woman) to refer to a female
lover as a "fuck buddy".  Hence the presence of the word "buddy" implies
a male-to-male relationship, with the f-word specifying it is a sexual
relationship."

I'm not sure about this. My younger sister (now 22, living in TN) regularly
uses the term "buddy" for a close male friend, but not a boyfriend and not
someone who she is sleeping with. I've heard this use from a couple of other
females around her age, as well. It doesn't seem to be a term that can be
applied to other females, and a boyfriend cannot also be a buddy, but a
buddy can later become a boyfriend, although none of the males my sister has
applied this term to have gained that promotion yet. Perhaps this term
describes the dreaded "you're like a brother to me" relationship that men
try so desperately to avoid.



On 6/13/07, Landau, James <James.Landau at ngc.com> wrote:
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> In Basic Training in 1969, at Fort Knox, Kentucky, I heard the following
> definition of "buddy system":  "your buddy gets a pass, goes to town,
> gets two blow jobs, and gives you one."  So it's earlier than the 80's
> and not restricted to California.
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> When CB radio became the fad around 1974, a stereotyped usage (e.g. C.
> W. McCall's "Convoy" record) was to call someone (generally a male
> someone) "good buddy".  By about 1980 a CB-er told me "good buddy" was
> not to be used because it now meant a gay boyfriend.
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> As for "fuck buddy" being a gay male usage, that makes sense.  The word
> "buddy" is usually (though not always) applied to a man's male friend or
> helper, e.g. the "buddy system" in swimming.  (However, one can imagine
> a girl's swimming class using the buddy system.)
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> Therefore for a woman to refer to a male lover as a "fuck buddy" is odd,
> since women do not generally refer to male friends as "buddies".
> Equally odd for a man (or for that matter a woman) to refer to a female
> lover as a "fuck buddy".  Hence the presence of the word "buddy" implies
> a male-to-male relationship, with the f-word specifying it is a sexual
> relationship.
>
> OT: is anyone familiar with the term "best bud"?
>
>    - Jim Landau
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> From: Darla Wells [mailto:dlw3208 at LOUISIANA.EDU]
> Sent: Tuesday, June 12, 2007 11:43 AM
> Subject: Re: Another kind of buddy
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> When I was a beginning truck driver, I was told not to be saying that
> someone was my buddy. When I asked why, I was told that the definition
> of buddy is "someone who will go get a blow job and bring you back one."
> I have no idea where he got that one, but I heard it a few times. This
> was in Southern California in the 80's. I wonder if that comes from a
> similar place as "fuck buddy."
> Darla
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