"Can / May I ask you a question?"
geoffnathan at WAYNE.EDU
Tue Dec 2 11:07:06 UTC 2008
All that's good, Mark. But what you say is rather beside the point.
Off the top of your head, can you come up with any other yes-no
question in English which *necessarily* precludes even the theoretical
possibility that the person spoken to can exercise his God-given right
to answer "No"? Asking permission to perform this action entails
performing the action, irrespective of whether the person spoken to
wants to grant permission.I find that mind-bending! If someone were to
ask the perhaps somewhat more-threatening version, "May I question
you?", the person spoken to can easily, if he has the 'nads, answer,
"Damn the consequences! I say 'No!', sir! I deny you your
ignorant-arsed request! My desire not to be annoyed trumps your desire
to annoy me!"
Many years ago I heard the late Harvey Sacks talk about why small kids say 'Mommy, you know what?' Superficially this makes no sense, and why would a 4-year-old ask such a question anyway. In the ponderous but really clever way that Conversational Analysts deconstruct conversational turn-taking he pointed out that generally kids don't get to 'run' conversations, or in general have the right to 'the floor'. However, asking a question, by virtue of the structure of what Schegloff, Sacks and Jefferson called 'adjacency pairs' gave the child the automatic right to talk. Anybody can ask a question, but not just any low status person can start talking without invitation. So asking an open-ended question gives you the floor and begins a conversation, while just beginning with the actual question would seem rude and presumptive, meaning something along the lines of 'You're my servant and you must tell me this'.
Geoffrey S. Nathan
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