[EDLING:1182] 回复:Re: 回复:Re: 回复:Re: 回复:Re: 回复:Re: unpacking
BingBing Fan
bf318 at NYU.EDU
Wed Jan 18 18:17:58 UTC 2006
vic also likes a boy. as u know, i want a girl. tang doesn't care
since he's planning for 3 and believes that he'll have a least one
girl and one boy.
----- 原邮件 -----
从: Teresa Pica <teresap at gse.upenn.edu>
日期: 星期三, 一月 18日, 2006 下午1:08
主题: [EDLING:1181] U.S. Dept. of State Fellowship to Teach English
Abroad]
> That's really the best time to get a baby. You have any preference
> over the gender of the baby? I always prefer boys. Girls are too
> vulnerable.
>
> BingBing Fan <bf318 at nyu.edu> wrote: dissertation is the only
> thing left. of course, i need to write the
> proposal first.
>
> it's a rainy, windy and groomy day here. i was planning to see a
> doc
> today, guess when the weather gets better.
>
> ----- ?????? -----
> ??: jin liu
> ????: ??????, ???? 18??, 2006 ????9:12
> ?÷??: Re: ????:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re: unpacking
>
> > I enjoy shopping most of the time because I have a genuine love
> > for nice stuff. But I probably don't have a big purse to
> > accomodate this love of mine so at some point of time I have to
> > supress it.
> >
> > Keep me posted on the pregnancy thing. Do you have any pending
> > academic duties besides the dissertation?
> >
> > BingBing Fan wrote:
> > i'm more picky in shopping overall since i don't do much myself,
> > so
> > i'm mostly lost when i have to gift shop. i made a list, it's
> > really
> > going to be a pain... wish i could take pleasure in shopping as
> u do.
> >
> > yes, i'm going back for some good food. hopefully morning
> sickness
> > won't be too bad.
> >
> > ----- ?????? -----
> > ??: jin liu
> > ????: ??????, ???? 17??, 2006 ????11:32
> > ?????: Re: ????:Re: ????:Re: unpacking
> >
> > > I think you are probably a little too selective in terms of
> > > giftshopping. I always have lots of gift ideas. Are you still
> > > planning on going back if you are pregnant?
> > >
> > > BingBing Fan wrote: i'm not desperate for a coat
> > > as i'm not desperate for anything. u r
> > > rite, i heard coats at home r less expensive. it's very
> possible
> > > that
> > > this time i'm really pregnant. in that case, i'll have a great
> > > excuse
> > > for not shopping for myself. i probably don't need maternal
> > > clothes, i
> > > have tons of junks here and at home to put on.
> > >
> > > my shopping from now on is to buy gifts. it's going to be a
> > > headache.
> > > as usuall, came back empty-handed today...
> > >
> > >
> > > ----- ?????? -----
> > > ??: jin liu
> > > ????: ??????, ???? 17??, 2006 ????11:39
> > > ?????: Re: ????:Re: unpacking
> > >
> > > > She simply said that due to extensive coughing I probably
> had
> > my
> > > > throat scratched really bad and it was bleeding.
> > > >
> > > > I never was able to find anything in midtown and broadway.
> The
> > > > ones on 5th avenue and upper east are better places to dig
> > > around.
> > > > But I'd think there's probably not much left by now since
> they
> > > > started clearance right after the holiday and they have been
> > > doing
> > > > additional 20% since the week before. If you desperately
> want
> > a
> > > > wool coat, try ordering it on line from bananarepublic.com,
> > > which
> > > > usually is a little bit slower in putting things on sale. If
> > it
> > > > turns out to be not a so good fit, you can return the online
> > > > purchase at local stores. Also, you are always welcome to
> wear
> > > > mine for special occasions, if you are not looking for a
> fancy
> > > > one. Well, that's based on the assumption that you are not
> > > > pregnant. Or else we will have to find you maternity
> > clothing.:)
> > > I
> > > > will take pictures of the recent coats I bought and you can
> > pick
> > > one.>
> > > > Just a thought. If it's not too much trouble, you can ask
> you
> > > > mom or your sister-in-law to find you a classical wool coat
> > for
> > > > you from Shanghai. I'd imagine they are doing winter sales
> as
> > > > well. I actually wouldn't recommend a slim fit one as your
> > first
> > > > wool coat. You always want to allow a little extra room.
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > BingBing Fan wrote:
> > > > it seems to me a range of pills for a range of causes for
> > > > coughing.
> > > > did the doc say why the traces of blood?
> > > >
> > > > i did go to zara and banana republic in mid-town and again
> in
> > > soho
> > > > that day, how come i never find anything. maybe i didn't
> look
> > > closely.
> > > >
> > > > i tried the home pregnancy tool. the result doesn't match
> the
> > > 'not
> > > > pregnant' or 'pregnant'. maybe i did it wrong... i'll go see
> a
> > > doc
> > > > next week if my period doesn't come then.
> > > >
> > > > ----- ?????? -----
> > > > ??: jin liu
> > > > ????: ??????, ???? 17??, 2006 ????8:52
> > > > ?????: Re: unpacking
> > > >
> > > > > I am still fighting with the cough. Went to see a doctor
> > > because
> > > > I
> > > > > had small traces of blood in the morning secretion from
> the
> > > > > throat. So the doctor gave me a lot pills including anti-
> > > > bacteria,
> > > > > cough pills, allergy pills, nasal spray.
> > > > >
> > > > > Among us three, you are probably the one who is more
> > rational
> > > > > about shoping. I usually find it hard to resist the
> > temptation
> > > > to
> > > > > shop at this time of the year. Despite my yet-to-be-
> rescued
> > > > > physical wellness, I actually bought quite a lot goodies
> for
> > > me
> > > > > and Pig, majorities of which from Banana Republic. You
> > > probably
> > > > > should have checked Banana Republic. They have quite some
> > good
> > > > > stuff this year. I bought two wool coats from them. One
> > > > expensive
> > > > > one the other relatively cheap. The two wool coats might
> be
> > > > small
> > > > > for you but fit me well. I also bought several
> wool/cashmere
> > > > > sweaters for Pig. All with nice-prices. The thing with
> > > shopping
> > > > in
> > > > > the City is that you gotta be fast when stores start
> > > clearance,
> > > > > especially this year since they started it earlier than
> > usual.
> > > > > Otherwise the small sizes go very fast. If you are still
> in
> > > > > shopping mood, check out Zara on 54th&5th Ave and Banana
> > > > Republic
> > > > > on 59th&Lexington, 86th&3rd Ave.. These stores usually
> would
> > > > still
> > > > > have some nice stuff left a!
> > > > > nd are
> > > > > where I'd go if I were in the City.
> > > > >
> > > > > I undertand how you feel about the very likely pregnancy.
> > But
> > > > > isn't it a good thing if you are indeed pregnant? Maybe
> you
> > > > could
> > > > > get a test either by DIY or seeing a doctor? If it's true,
> > we
> > > > all
> > > > > have a really good reason to celebrate.
> > > > >
> > > > > Take care.
> > > > >
> > > > >
> > > > > BingBing Fan wrote:
> > > > > hope u r feeling better. it's freezing cold the day vic
> > moved.
> > > > > her
> > > > > apt. is pretty big, still not big enough to hold all her
> > > > clothes,
> > > > > accessories, and shoes. i'm absolutely shocked by the
> sceen
> > > and
> > > > > promise to myself that i'll never go shopping unless
> > > necessary.
> > > > i
> > > > > start to think that probably all girls have tons of junks
> in
> > > > their
> > > > > closets except me. when u come to the city, u should
> really
> > go
> > > > and
> > > > > take a look.
> > > > >
> > > > > i went shopping with tang's cousin the past sat. maybe
> it's
> > > been
> > > > a
> > > > > long time, i was having a headache after an hour of lv,
> > coach,
> > > > and
> > > > > tiffany... i did check out the coats in zara and loft,
> > nothing
> > > > > good,
> > > > > then i went to sophora, somehow didn't see a lot of brand
> > name
> > > > > cosmetics, a lot of local brands ppl in china don't know.
> > dior
> > > > and
> > > > > shiseido r beyonn my budget. maybe i was just having
> > dazzling
> > > > eyes
> > > > > after a day of shopping. my cousin told me that i should
> buy
> > > the
> > > > > tax-
> > > > > free cosmetics at the airport, it's cheaper than the ones
> on
> > > the
> > > > > market. i don't know, want to get everything ready by the
> > time
> > > i
> > > > > go to
> > > > > the airport.
> > > > >
> > > > > anyway, my period is still delayed, maybe this time it's
> > real.
> > > > i'm
> > > > > very nervous, don't think i'm ready for this if it's real.
> > so
> > > > much
> > > > > for
> > > > > the report. later.From: Bingbing Fan
> > > > > To: jin liu
> > > > > Date: Wed, 11 Jan 2006 16:31:27 -0500
> > > > > Subject: ????:Re:????:Re:
> > > > > ????:Re: ????:Re:
> > > > > ????:Re: ????:Re:
> > > > > ????:Re: ????:Re:
> > > > > ????:Re: ????:Re:
> > > > > ????:Re: ????:Re:
> > > > > ????:Re: ????:Re:
> > > > > ????:Re: ????:Re:
> > > > > ????:Re: ?????:Warning:
> > > > > could not send message for past 8 hours
> > > > >
> > > > > yeah, i remember ur coughing last time, hope this time
> it's
> > > not
> > > > > the
> > > > > same. well, vic says one of the reasons she moved into the
> > > city
> > > > is
> > > > > so
> > > > > that we could spend more time with each other. she's
> already
> > > > > dreaming
> > > > > about dancing, having girls overnite and having cooking
> > > events,
> > > > of
> > > > > course she's not the one who's gonna cook. yes, 1br. but
> as
> > > all
> > > > > apts
> > > > > in the city, it's a small 1br.
> > > > >
> > > > >
> > > > > ----- ?????? -----
> > > > > ??: jin liu
> > > > > ????: ??????, ???? 11??, 2006 ????3:51
> > > > > ?????: Re:????:Re:????:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re:
> > ????:Re: ??
> > > > > ??:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re: ??
> > > > > ??:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re: ??
> > > > > ??:Re: ?????:Warning: could not send message for past 8
> > > > > hours
> > > > >
> > > > > > I have a feeling that the cough will be with me for a
> > while.
> > > > > Last
> > > > > > time when I had a similar cough it bothered me for
> several
> > > > > months.
> > > > > > So if that's the case and you want to go sooner, go. I
> can
> > > > stop
> > > > > by
> > > > > > later on.
> > > > > >
> > > > > > Is it a 1-bedroom apt.?
> > > > > >
> > > > > > Bingbing Fan wrote:
> > > > > > she didn't mention a house warming party, but she said
> us
> > > > girls
> > > > > > r
> > > > > > always welcome. so get better so we can see u soon.
> > > > > >
> > > > > > ----- ?????? -----
> > > > > > ??: jin liu
> > > > > > ????: ??????, ???? 11??, 2006 ????3:18
> > > > > > ?????: Re:????:Re:????:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re:
> > > ????:Re: ??
> > > > > > ??:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re: ??
> > > > > > ??:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re: ???
> > > > > > ??:Warning: could not send message for past 8 hours
> > > > > >
> > > > > > > Packing&unpacking is a lot work. Did she have a
> specific
> > > > date
> > > > > > for
> > > > > > > her apt.-warming party? Hope my cough will be
> completely
> > > > gone
> > > > > by
> > > > > > > that time. Right now it's not wanting to go.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > Bingbing Fan wrote: i don't know, with all the
> > > > > > > furniture and stuff around, and her male
> > > > > > > friends also helping out, it's going to be messy. but
> we
> > > can
> > > > > > > mix&match
> > > > > > > when three of us get together at her house later on.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > ----- ?????? -----
> > > > > > > ??: jin liu
> > > > > > > ????: ??????, ???? 11??, 2006 ????1:22
> > > > > > > ?????: Re:????:Re:????:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re:
> > > > ????:Re: ??
> > > > > > > ??:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re: ??
> > > > > > > ??:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re: ?????:Warning: could not
> > > > > > > send message for past 8 hours
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > Thanks. Happy unpacking. Maybe you two can try the
> > > clothes
> > > > > on
> > > > > > > and
> > > > > > > > play mix-n-match.
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > Bingbing Fan wrote: vic is moving this sunday and
> > > > > > > > i'll help her unpack. seems like she got
> > > > > > > > tons of clothing from hk again. i'll send ur greetings.
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > ----- ????? -----
> > > > > > > > ??: jin liu
> > > > > > > > ????: ??????, ???? 11??, 2006 ????9:48
> > > > > > > > ?????: Re:????:Re:????:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re:
> ????:Re:
> > > > > ????:Re: ??
> > > > > > > > ??:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re: ??
> > > > > > > > ??:Re: ????:Re: ?????:Warning: could not send
> message
> > > for
> > > > > > > > past 8 hours
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > > Sounds like a long frustrating experience. But
> what
> > I
> > > > > heard
> > > > > > is
> > > > > > > > > that trying for 1 year to get pregant is normal.
> My
> > > > > brother
> > > > > > &
> > > > > > > > > sister-in-law tried longer than that. Sometimes
> it's
> > > the
> > > > > > > > > expectation that brings anxiety. But keep trying
> and
> > > > it's
> > > > > > good
> > > > > > > > > timing now that Tang started working and you are
> > > almost
> > > > > done
> > > > > > > > with
> > > > > > > > > school.
> > > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > > Regarding the 2-person life, you must have noticed
> > > that
> > > > I
> > > > > > was
> > > > > > > a
> > > > > > > > > loner and I still am. Most of the time I'd rather
> > > being
> > > > > > alone
> > > > > > > > than
> > > > > > > > > being with Pig. It's both a habit and an inherent
> > > nature
> > > > > of
> > > > > > > > mine,
> > > > > > > > > which combined could mean that I need more time to
> > > > adjust.
> > > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > > If you are in contact with Victoria lately, say hi
> > to
> > > > her.
> > > > > I
> > > > > > > > > haven't got a chance to chat with her. Don't feel
> > like
> > > > > > talking
> > > > > > > > > much these days.
> > > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > > Bingbing Fan wrote:
> > > > > > > > > many ppl and professionals are giving in nature
> such
> > > as
> > > > > > soical
> > > > > > > > > workers, teachers, nurses, housewives... ppl find
> > > > pleasure
> > > > > > and
> > > > > > > > > accomplishment in giving. that's probably why even
> > > > > > businessmen
> > > > > > > r
> > > > > > > > > devoted to charities, other than due to reduced
> tax
> > > :).
> > > > in
> > > > > > > > > essence,
> > > > > > > > > the person who is offering, compromising, and
> > somtimes
> > > > > > > > sacrificing
> > > > > > > > > is
> > > > > > > > > equally or even doubly rewarded in many other
> ways.
> > > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > > u r rite, there's gotta be more than one thing
> that
> > u
> > > > > would
> > > > > > > like
> > > > > > > > > to
> > > > > > > > > devote ur emotion, energy and talent to at same or
> > > > > different
> > > > > > > > > stages of
> > > > > > > > > life. find them, and pursue them. if u can't find
> > > > anything
> > > > > > > other
> > > > > > > > > than
> > > > > > > > > husband and family life for now, it's fine, relax
> > and
> > > be
> > > > > > > > patient,
> > > > > > > > > it'll come to u.
> > > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > > not sure what the realities u r talking about,
> being
> > a
> > > > > newly
> > > > > > > > wed,
> > > > > > > > > it's
> > > > > > > > > normal to feel uncomfortable to live in a 2-ppl
> > world.
> > > > > after
> > > > > > > > all,
> > > > > > > > > u
> > > > > > > > > lived with ur brother and all by urself for 30
> > years.
> > > > > during
> > > > > > > > > transition from singlie to marriage life, u'll see
> > the
> > > > > stuff
> > > > > > u
> > > > > > > > > haven't
> > > > > > > > > seen before, that's all part of the dicovery.
> every
> > > > > married
> > > > > > > > couple
> > > > > > > > > has
> > > > > > > > > gone through this stage, just give urself time to
> > > > transit,
> > > > > > and
> > > > > > > > > remember, change is mostly frightening,
> unpleasant,
> > > and
> > > > > > > > > challenging.
> > > > > > > > > marriage is not the tomb, but it's not rosy
> either,
> > > it's
> > > > > > just
> > > > > > > > > ordinary
> > > > > > > > > life with a partner, more chores, more
> > > responsibilites,
> > > > > more
> > > > > > > > > compromises, and along with it, more security and
> > > > > happiness.
> > > > > > > but
> > > > > > > > > security and happiness doesn't come along easily,
> > it's
> > > a
> > > > > > > bitter
> > > > > > > > > sweet
> > > > > > > > > process, just like life itself.
> > > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > > last month my period is late for a week and it
> gave
> > us
> > > > > false
> > > > > > > > hope.
> > > > > > > > > it's late again this month, but it seems to have
> all
> > > the
> > > > > > > syptoms
> > > > > > > > > of a
> > > > > > > > > period anytime soon. it's just sarcastic to think
> > that
> > > i
> > > > > > > didn't
> > > > > > > > > want
> > > > > > > > > to have a baby, now when i finally made the
> > decision,
> > > > it's
> > > > > > so
> > > > > > > > > hard...
> > > > > > > > > honestly i don't mind, it just the process of
> > trying,
> > > > > > hoping,
> > > > > > > > > kinda
> > > > > > > > > tiring...
> > > > > > > > > ok, i'll shut up and let u recover.
> > > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > > ----- ?????? -----
> > > > > > > > > ??: jin liu
> > > > > > > > > ????: ??????, ???? 10??, 2006 ????4:52
> > > > > > > > > ?????: Re:????:Re:????:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re:
> > ????:Re:
> > > > > > ????:Re: ??
> > > > > > > > > ??:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re: ??
> > > > > > > > > ??:Re: ?????:Warning: could not send message for
> > past
> > > 8
> > > > > > > > > hours
> > > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > > > I agree. But I think I've found myself to be a
> > > person
> > > > > who
> > > > > > > > loves
> > > > > > > > > or
> > > > > > > > > > gives or both to the most in personal life. I
> know
> > > by
> > > > > > doing
> > > > > > > > that
> > > > > > > > > I
> > > > > > > > > > am making myself more vulnerable than others.
> > > However
> > > > to
> > > > > > > love
> > > > > > > > > > and/or to give seems to me to be the real joy of
> > > life.
> > > > > > It's
> > > > > > > > just
> > > > > > > > > > that I am not yet sure who that person/thing is
> or
> > > > maybe
> > > > > > it
> > > > > > > > > could
> > > > > > > > > > be different person/things at different stage of
> > > life.
> > > > > All
> > > > > > > > > those"I
> > > > > > > > > > am pretty independent" type of thing is what and
> > how
> > > I
> > > > > > equip
> > > > > > > > > > myself financially and emotionally to be that
> > lover
> > > > > and/or
> > > > > > > > > giver.
> > > > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > > > I guess in a way you have wiser realizations
> than
> > me
> > > > > about
> > > > > > > > life
> > > > > > > > > > and human being. I have been feeling low in the
> > past
> > > > > year
> > > > > > > > > because
> > > > > > > > > > this past year has showed me many of the "real"
> > > parts
> > > > of
> > > > > > > > people
> > > > > > > > > > and life, as I am a person full of hopes and
> good
> > > > > motives.
> > > > > > > But
> > > > > > > > > > maybe it's not all that bad. As Pig often puts
> it,
> > > > hey,
> > > > > > > > welcome
> > > > > > > > > to
> > > > > > > > > > the reality!
> > > > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > > > Bingbing Fan wrote:
> > > > > > > > > > i think every girl has this mr. rite dream. i
> had
> > it
> > > > > once
> > > > > > > too.
> > > > > > > > > > now
> > > > > > > > > > that i'm married, experienced ups and downs in a
> > > > > > > relationship,
> > > > > > > > i
> > > > > > > > > > know
> > > > > > > > > > it's dangerous to attach myself totally to my
> > > husband
> > > > > > > > > financially
> > > > > > > > > > or
> > > > > > > > > > emotionally, even if the relationship is stable
> > now.
> > > u
> > > > > > need
> > > > > > > to
> > > > > > > > > > maintain a balanced relationship, which means
> u'll
> > > be
> > > > u
> > > > > no
> > > > > > > > > matter
> > > > > > > > > > what
> > > > > > > > > > happens in the future. u always give me an
> > > impression
> > > > of
> > > > > > > being
> > > > > > > > > > independent, so this really hits me out of the
> > blue.
> > > > if
> > > > > u
> > > > > > do
> > > > > > > > > think
> > > > > > > > > > u
> > > > > > > > > > need attachment to be happy, it's going to be
> > > > > challenging
> > > > > > to
> > > > > > > > > work
> > > > > > > > > > that
> > > > > > > > > > out in ur marriage, at least it's going to take
> a
> > > > while.
> > > > > > > that
> > > > > > > > > > said, be
> > > > > > > > > > nice to urself. managing a relationship in a
> > > marriage
> > > > is
> > > > > a
> > > > > > > > life-
> > > > > > > > > > long
> > > > > > > > > > process, one thing solved, another shows up.
> it's
> > > > change
> > > > > > > that
> > > > > > > > > > doesn't
> > > > > > > > > > change. 100% sense of safety can be momentary,
> but
> > > > never
> > > > > > > > > forever.
> > > > > > > > > > live
> > > > > > > > > > forever ever happily is just a beautiful lie.
> here
> > > > goes
> > > > > my
> > > > > > > > true
> > > > > > > > > > pessimistic personality.
> > > > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > > > ----- ?????? -----
> > > > > > > > > > ??: jin liu
> > > > > > > > > > ????: ??????, ???? 10??, 2006 ????12:02
> > > > > > > > > > ?????: Re:????:Re:????:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re:
> > > ????:Re:
> > > > > > > ????:Re: ??
> > > > > > > > > > ??:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re: ????:Re: ???
> > > > > > > > > > ??:Warning: could not send message for past 8 hours
> > > > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > > > > That's thought-provoking. But guess what. In
> the
> > > > past
> > > > > > year
> > > > > > > > > I've
> > > > > > > > > > > found one big thing about myself:ultimately
> what
> > > > makes
> > > > > > me
> > > > > > > > > happy
> > > > > > > > > > is
> > > > > > > > > > > that I find that person I can truly be
> attached
>
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>
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