SIGNIFICANT OTHER: Increasingly Significant Issue

[Ruth Barton]

At the other end of the spectrum, I am Mrs. Barton.  Not only am I Mrs.
Barton, I prefer Mrs. Merrill Barton, not Mrs. Ruth Barton.  My grandmother
said it should be Mrs. Merrill Barton if the husband is still alive and
change to the wife's given name if husband dies or divorce.  Guess I am
just old fashioned and traditional.  Ruth




At 4:35 PM -0400 4/11/02, Alice Faber wrote:
>Steve Kl. wrote:
>>On Thu, 11 Apr 2002, Lynne Murphy wrote:
>>
>>>  In the UK, 'partner' is the term of choice regardless of sexual
>>>  orientation.  It's used without blinking all the time.
>>
>>I, like most of my queer, coupled friends, use partner (as in my response
>>to telemarketers "There is no Mrs. Dubuque; this is Peter's partner." Then
>>they stammer, except recently one person went "Is this a business?")
>>
>>Actually, in this day in age, I'm astounded by the number of telemarketers
>>who ask for Mrs. Dubuque. It seems so presumptuous on so many levels, not
>>just queer/straight ones. Haven't these people ever dealt with widowers,
>>for example? It seems like such an easy way to get off on the wrong foot.
>
>Not to mention women who are not and have not ever been Mrs.
>anything! (Not even when I was married)
>
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Ruth Barton
mrgjb at sover.net
Westminster, VT