CONSTANT COMPANION

[Dave Wilton]

I've just Googled for Hilda Mae Snoops, the "longtime companion" of former
Maryland Governor & Baltimore Mayor Donald Schaefer and looked at how she
was described in web pages and news reports. She is usually described as
"longtime companion." "Longtime friend" and "close friend" are also used.

"Constant companion" does not appear.

Officially, she is described as "Official Hostess" in lieu of "First Lady."
She's also called "first hostess."

The Washington Post records this exchange from 14 Feb 1998:

"This is his girlfriend?" asks Nelson J. Sabatini, Schaefer's friend and
former secretary of health, running through the usual options. "This is his
close friend? His dear friend? You know, lady friend?

"Special friend!" Sabatini decides.

--Dave Wilton
  dave at wilton.net
  http://www.wilton.net


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> Subject: Re: CONSTANT COMPANION
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>
> I remember a young lady in 1974 citing her "special friend."  As
> good a term as any, I suppose. She was from Pittsburgh.
>
> JL
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> > In a message dated 4/9/05 8:26:27 AM, wuxxmupp2000 at YAHOO.COM writes:
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> >>> I remember "constant companion" from the early '60s
> >>> or possibly before. But I didn't figure out what it
> >>> meant till I was a lot older.
> >
> > In response to someone else's:
> >
> >>
> >> Does anyone remember when "constant companion" was the polite locution
> >> for the man or the woman with whom a person of note enjoyed a close
> >> personal, i.e. sexual, relationship?
> >>
> >
> > Are you confusing CONSTANT COMPANION with LONG-TERM COMPANION or
> > SPECIAL
> > FRIEND?
>
> I'm not. "Constant companion" and "long-term companion" are two sides
> of the same coin. "Special friend" sounds like a term from elementary
> school or from a Hallmark card. FWIW, "constant/long-term companion"
> antedates the rat pack by perhaps 15 years. If you've heard or read of
> the members of the rat pack referred to as "constant companions," then
> you're a better man than I, Gunga Ron. As for the claim that Little
> Lulu and Tubby enjoyed a sexual relationship, I have no knowledge of
> their private lives beyond what was portrayed in comic strips and in
> animated cartoons. As for what the meaning of "constant companion" may
> be in the English of 2005 as opposed to the meaning that it had in
> 1945, I don't care.
>
> -Wilson Gray
>
> > I have no clear-cut memory of CONSTANT COMPANION ever being a
> > euphemism
> > for 'domestic partner' or 'lover'. As I recall, Dean Martin and Sammy
> > Davis
> > Junior were the "constant companions" of Frank Sinatra, but I
> > seriously doubt that
> > there was a sexual relation between/among them. Nor were Little Lulu
> > and
> > Tubby lovers (unless there was an underground version that I don't
> > know about).
> >
> > Judging from the first 10 of the 184,000 Google hits for CONSTANT
> > COMPANION,
> > the phrase today does not signify 'lover', but I don't have time to
> > look into
> > this further right now; it would be especially illuminating to do a
> > NewspaperArchive.com search. I certainly do not doubt that my memory
> > may be faulty
> > here--I'd just like to see some hard data.
> >
> > But who knows? I'd
> >
>
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