despairing = 'discouraging'

[Jonathan Lighter]

Not in OED.

A fortyish nurse at an Atlanta clinic tells CNN (with no pause or other
indication that she's searching for a word) that the continued appearance of
AIDS cases "is a little bit despairing."
JL
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"If the truth is half as bad as I think it is, you can't handle the truth."

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