[Ads-l] throuple

Barretts Mail mail.barretts at GMAIL.COM
Sat Mar 20 20:03:05 UTC 2021

The French Wikipedia has more on “compersion” than the English: https://fr.wikipedia.org/wiki/Compersion <https://fr.wikipedia.org/wiki/Compersion>

I take it that “ménage à trois” tends to have a dated and fairly sexually oriented connotation, something I confirmed a year or two with someone in a throuple. 

Benjamin Barrett (he/him/his)
Formerly of Seattle, WA

> On 20 Mar 2021, at 12:26, Laurence Horn <laurence.horn at YALE.EDU> wrote:
> The Rachel Moss piece also touches on “compersion”.  Wiktionary has
> ===================
> 'Vicarious joy associated with seeing one's partner have a joyful romantic or sexual relation with another'
> Coined by the Kerista Community in the 1970s. Possibly derived from French compère (“partner”), plus -sion, based on an earlier use of the French compérage to denote the practice of brothers-in-law sharing wives observed among Tupi people of the Brazilian Amazon.
> ==================
> “Possibly” indeed.  Does anyone have more on this intermittently useful term?  Wikipedia has a brief description of compersion in its polyamory entry, while OED goes in for neither compersion nor the throuple (although it does have thripple and thrapple, neither of them a variant on the arrangement).  I don’t see much difference between “throuple” and “ménage à trois” (no, mailer, I didn’t mean “ménage à trots", but thanks anyway) beyond the language of origin.
> LH
>> On Mar 20, 2021, at 2:38 PM, Ben Zimmer <bgzimmer at GMAIL.COM> wrote:
>> The WordSpy entry has examples back to 2004.
>> https://wordspy.com/index.php?word=throuple
>> "It’s the hottest thing in romantic commitment since monogrammed towels.
>> It’s set Provincetown abuzz. And now it’s got a catchy name: 'throuple,' as
>> in couple, only consisting of three (usually same-sex) members instead of
>> two."
>> --Edith Zimmerman, “City Journal,” Boston Magazine, October 1, 2004
>> On Sat, Mar 20, 2021 at 2:17 PM Barretts Mail <mail.barretts at gmail.com>
>> wrote:
>>> Interesting find!
>>> This redirects to ménage à trois on Wikipedia (
>>> https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/M%C3%A9nage_%C3%A0_trois <
>>> https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/M%C3%A9nage_%C3%A0_trois>) where it is
>>> noted as being a contemporary version of the arrangement.
>>> Wikipedia cites the 2016 “Throuple Relationships Vs Threesomes Explained…”
>>> by Rachel Moss (https://tinyurl.com/zxuu7d8 <https://tinyurl.com/zxuu7d8
>>>> ).
>>> Wiktionary (https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/throuple <
>>> https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/throuple>) has this and “throupling”, but
>>> Webster-Merriam and the OED do not have either.
>>> The earliest cites I found on Google are from 2009:
>>> https://tinyurl.com/2v4n9kss <https://tinyurl.com/2v4n9kss>
>>> Charlotte ‘throuple’ on MTV doc
>>> 15 Sept 2009
>>> https://tinyurl.com/atsms5sk <https://tinyurl.com/atsms5sk>
>>> Is This Throuple Destined For Happiness? Or Is a 3-Way Relationship Doomed?
>>> 16 Sept 2009
>>> Benjamin Barrett (he/his/him)
>>> Formerly of Seattle, WA
>>>> On 20 Mar 2021, at 10:56, Mark Mandel <markamandel at GMAIL.COM> wrote:
>>>> Gay Throuple Who Made History Say Being A Three-Person Unit Makes
>>> Parenting
>>>> Easier
>>> https://www.ladbible.com/community/interesting-gay-throuple-who-made-history-say-being-a-three-makes-things-easier-20210319
>>>> A gay 'throuple' who made history after putting all three of their names
>>> on
>>>> their child's birth certificate
>>>> <
>>> https://www.ladbible.com/community/interesting-men-become-first-throuple-with-three-dads-put-on-birth-certificate-20210217
>>>> have
>>>> said being a three-parent unit makes things easier.
>>>> Ian Jenkins, Alan Mayfield, and Jeremy Allen Hodges, from San Diego in
>>> the
>>>> US, launched and won a legal bid to get all of their name's put on their
>>>> daughter Pippa's birth certificate back in 2017.
>>>> The throuple are now proud parents to Pippa, three, and Parker who is
>>>> almost one.

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