[Ads-l] throuple

Sun Mar 21 00:11:34 UTC 2021

Incidentally, I discovered while doing the research for 'threeple' that
my aged fingers can't still do the hand jive.

On 3/20/21 4:46 PM, Laurence Horn wrote:
>> On Mar 20, 2021, at 6:50 PM, James Eric Lawson <jel at NVENTURE.COM> wrote:
>>
>> Not a quaple or a quiple (much less a BLT) but the 'throuple' synonym
>> 'threeple' joins the crowd in print soon after the 2004 example of
>> 'throuple' noted by Wordspy:
>>
>> 28 Oct 2005, Knight-Ridder News Service syndicated movie review by Chris
>> Hewitt (in The Miami Herald): "They form a Jules and Jim-like threeple."
>>
>> That use might be nonce, were 'threeple' not also found in a 22 Nov 2011
>> entry in Urban Dictionary and a 2019 new word suggestion at Collins
>> Dictionary.
>>
>> Historically, with a more general definition ("three times as many"),
>> the noun is attested in the Scottish National Dictionary from 1827.
>> Depending on how you roll, that might be considered a non-English
>> language use.
> 
> Here is the church, here is the steeple,
> Open the door, and now see the threeple—oops, quick, close the door. 
> 
> 
>>
>> On 3/20/21 1:05 PM, Laurence Horn wrote:
>>>> On Mar 20, 2021, at 4:03 PM, Barretts Mail <mail.barretts at GMAIL.COM> wrote:
>>>>
>>>> The French Wikipedia has more on “compersion” than the English: https://fr.wikipedia.org/wiki/Compersion <https://fr.wikipedia.org/wiki/Compersion>
>>>>
>>>> I take it that “ménage à trois” tends to have a dated and fairly sexually oriented connotation, something I confirmed a year or two with someone in a throuple. 
>>>>
>>>> Benjamin Barrett (he/him/his)
>>>> Formerly of Seattle, WA
>>>
>>> So maybe “ménage à trois” is sandwiched cozily between “threesome” and “throuple”.  It’s getting semantically crowded in there!
>>>
>>>
>>>>
>>>>> On 20 Mar 2021, at 12:26, Laurence Horn <laurence.horn at YALE.EDU> wrote:
>>>>>
>>>>> The Rachel Moss piece also touches on “compersion”.  Wiktionary has
>>>>> ===================
>>>>>
>>>>> 'Vicarious joy associated with seeing one's partner have a joyful romantic or sexual relation with another'
>>>>>
>>>>> Coined by the Kerista Community in the 1970s. Possibly derived from French compère (“partner”), plus -sion, based on an earlier use of the French compérage to denote the practice of brothers-in-law sharing wives observed among Tupi people of the Brazilian Amazon.
>>>>>
>>>>> ==================
>>>>> “Possibly” indeed.  Does anyone have more on this intermittently useful term?  Wikipedia has a brief description of compersion in its polyamory entry, while OED goes in for neither compersion nor the throuple (although it does have thripple and thrapple, neither of them a variant on the arrangement).  I don’t see much difference between “throuple” and “ménage à trois” (no, mailer, I didn’t mean “ménage à trots", but thanks anyway) beyond the language of origin.
>>>>>
>>>>> LH
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>> On Mar 20, 2021, at 2:38 PM, Ben Zimmer <bgzimmer at GMAIL.COM> wrote:
>>>>>>
>>>>>> The WordSpy entry has examples back to 2004.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> https://wordspy.com/index.php?word=throuple
>>>>>> "It’s the hottest thing in romantic commitment since monogrammed towels.
>>>>>> It’s set Provincetown abuzz. And now it’s got a catchy name: 'throuple,' as
>>>>>> in couple, only consisting of three (usually same-sex) members instead of
>>>>>> two."
>>>>>> --Edith Zimmerman, “City Journal,” Boston Magazine, October 1, 2004
>>>>>>
>>>>>>
>>>>>> On Sat, Mar 20, 2021 at 2:17 PM Barretts Mail <mail.barretts at gmail.com>
>>>>>> wrote:
>>>>>>
>>>>>>> Interesting find!
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> This redirects to ménage à trois on Wikipedia (
>>>>>>> https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/M%C3%A9nage_%C3%A0_trois <
>>>>>>> https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/M%C3%A9nage_%C3%A0_trois>) where it is
>>>>>>> noted as being a contemporary version of the arrangement.
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> Wikipedia cites the 2016 “Throuple Relationships Vs Threesomes Explained…”
>>>>>>> by Rachel Moss (https://tinyurl.com/zxuu7d8 <https://tinyurl.com/zxuu7d8
>>>>>>>> ).
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> Wiktionary (https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/throuple <
>>>>>>> https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/throuple>) has this and “throupling”, but
>>>>>>> Webster-Merriam and the OED do not have either.
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> The earliest cites I found on Google are from 2009:
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> https://tinyurl.com/2v4n9kss <https://tinyurl.com/2v4n9kss>
>>>>>>> Charlotte ‘throuple’ on MTV doc
>>>>>>> 15 Sept 2009
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> https://tinyurl.com/atsms5sk <https://tinyurl.com/atsms5sk>
>>>>>>> Is This Throuple Destined For Happiness? Or Is a 3-Way Relationship Doomed?
>>>>>>> 16 Sept 2009
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> Benjamin Barrett (he/his/him)
>>>>>>> Formerly of Seattle, WA
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> On 20 Mar 2021, at 10:56, Mark Mandel <markamandel at GMAIL.COM> wrote:
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> Gay Throuple Who Made History Say Being A Three-Person Unit Makes
>>>>>>> Parenting
>>>>>>>> Easier
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> https://www.ladbible.com/community/interesting-gay-throuple-who-made-history-say-being-a-three-makes-things-easier-20210319
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> A gay 'throuple' who made history after putting all three of their names
>>>>>>> on
>>>>>>>> their child's birth certificate
>>>>>>>> <
>>>>>>> https://www.ladbible.com/community/interesting-men-become-first-throuple-with-three-dads-put-on-birth-certificate-20210217
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> have
>>>>>>>> said being a three-parent unit makes things easier.
>>>>>>>> Ian Jenkins, Alan Mayfield, and Jeremy Allen Hodges, from San Diego in
>>>>>>> the
>>>>>>>> US, launched and won a legal bid to get all of their name's put on their
>>>>>>>> daughter Pippa's birth certificate back in 2017.
>>>>>>>> The throuple are now proud parents to Pippa, three, and Parker who is
>>>>>>>> almost one.
>>>>
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