[lg policy] From Birth, Engage Your Child With Talk

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September 29, 2009
Personal Health

>>From Birth, Engage Your Child With Talk

By JANE E. BRODY
I recently stopped to congratulate a young mother pushing her toddler
in a stroller. The woman had been talking to her barely verbal
daughter all the way up the block, pointing out things they had
passed, asking questions like “What color are those flowers?” and
talking about what they would do when they got to the park. This is a
rare occurrence in my Brooklyn neighborhood, I told her. All too
often, the mothers and nannies I see are tuned in to their cellphones,
BlackBerrys and iPods, not their young children.  There were no such
distractions when my husband and I, and most other parents of a
certain age, spent time with our babies, toddlers and preschoolers.
Like this young mother, we talked to them. We read to them and sang
with them. And long before they became verbal, we mimicked their
noises, letting them know they were communicating and we were
listening and responding. (And we’ve done the same with our four
grandsons, all born after the turn of this wireless century.)

I am not the only one alarmed by modern parental behavior. Randi
Jacoby, a speech and language specialist in New York, recently told me
in an e-mail message: “Parents have stopped having good communications
with their young children, causing them to lose out on the eye
contact, facial expression and overall feedback that is essential for
early communication development. “Young children require time and
one-on-one feedback as they struggle to formulate utterances in order
to build their language and cognitive skills. The most basic skills
are not being taught by example, and society is falling prey to the
quick response that our computer generation has become accustomed to.
“Parents need to be reminded of the significance of their
communicative model.”

Communication Starts Early

Not all parents, of course, are routinely tuning out their young
children. Two of my female friends in their 30s who have toddlers talk
to them, and with them, incessantly. One, a former Spanish teacher,
speaks to her three little boys only in Spanish; her husband and
almost everyone else in their lives speak to them in English. The
oldest, now 3, is fluently bilingual and readily translates into
English what has been said to him in Spanish. If I ask him something
in Spanish, he responds to me in English (he quickly recognized my
limits with Spanish) and even corrects my mispronunciations of Spanish
words. So much for the notion that learning two languages
simultaneously delays a child’s language development.

Ms. Jacoby’s general advice to parents: “Reward your little one’s
communicative attempts with your heightened attention to his/her
conversation. Be prepared to put down your cellphone and look them
squarely in the eye as they share their thoughts with you.”
Communication begins as soon as a baby is born. The way you touch,
hold, look at and talk to babies help them learn your language, and
the different ways babies cry help you learn their language — “I’m
wet,” “I’m hungry,” “I’m tired,” “I hurt,” “I’m overwhelmed” and so
forth. “Talk to your baby whenever you have the chance,” the American
Medical Association advises parents. “Even though he doesn’t
understand what you’re saying, your calm, reassuring voice is what he
needs to feel safe. Always respond to your newborn’s cries — he cannot
be spoiled with too much attention.”

The American Speech-Language-Hearing Association urges parents to
reinforce communication efforts by looking at the baby and imitating
vocalizations, laughter and facial expressions. “Talk while you are
doing things,” the association suggests. “Talk about where you are
going, what you will do once you get there, and who and what you’ll
see.”
You might say things like, “Now we’re going to put on your socks,”
“We’re going in the car to see Grandma,” or, “When we get to the
playground, I’ll push you on the swing.”
And you can’t introduce books too early. I remember my niece at 3
months paying rapt attention as her mother “read” picture books to
her, pointing out objects, their colors and what the characters were
doing.

Likewise for the toddler. Advice from the speech experts: “Talk while
doing things and going places. When taking a walk in the stroller, for
example, point to familiar objects and say their names. Use simple but
grammatical speech. Expand on words. For example, if your child says
‘car,’ you respond by saying: ‘You’re right! That is a big red car.’ ”

Not Verbal, but Understanding

Keep in mind that preverbal children understand far more than they can
say. One of my grandsons was a late-talker. When he wanted something
to drink or eat, he went to the refrigerator or pantry and pointed.
Our job was to ask, “Do you want water, milk or juice, cereal or
raisins?” and wait for his response. When we guessed right, we
reinforced the verbal message by saying, “Oh, you want cereal.”  Avoid
“baby” words and baby talk, which can confuse a child who is learning
to talk. Teach your child the correct words and names for people,
things, places and body parts, including “breast,” “penis” and
“vagina.” If your child uses a baby word (“din-din,” for example), you
can repeat it but also use the correct one (“dinner”). Play word games
like “This Little Piggy” or “The Itsy-Bitsy Spider” and encourage your
child to do the accompanying motions and perhaps some of the words.

Count the steps as you go up or down. My twin grandsons’ math skills
flourished long before they could speak in sentences because they live
in a third-floor walk-up. At whatever age your children start talking,
let them know you are interested in what they are saying by repeating
and expanding upon it and asking them to repeat what they said if at
first you do not understand them.

Ask questions that require a choice, like “Do you want milk or juice?”
or “Do you want to walk or ride in the stroller?” (An important aside:
Too many city children are transported in strollers well beyond the
time they can safely walk and run. Young children need to exercise
their bodies as well as their minds. The theft of our stroller when
our twins were 19 months old was probably the best thing that happened
to them.)

Help expand your child’s vocabulary by talking about what is done with
various objects or why a particular food helps to build healthy
bodies. Sing songs and recite nursery rhymes, and encourage your child
to fill in the blanks. When reading a book together, which should be a
daily activity, ask your child to name or describe the objects or talk
about what the characters are doing.  Avoid verbal frustration. When
your children try to talk to you, give them your full attention
whenever possible. And before you speak to them, make sure you have
their attention.

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/09/29/health/29brod.html?_r=1&scp=1&sq=Engage%20child%20with%20Talk&st=cse

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