Another kind of buddy

[Landau, James]

In Basic Training in 1969, at Fort Knox, Kentucky, I heard the following
definition of "buddy system":  "your buddy gets a pass, goes to town,
gets two blow jobs, and gives you one."  So it's earlier than the 80's
and not restricted to California.

When CB radio became the fad around 1974, a stereotyped usage (e.g. C.
W. McCall's "Convoy" record) was to call someone (generally a male
someone) "good buddy".  By about 1980 a CB-er told me "good buddy" was
not to be used because it now meant a gay boyfriend.

As for "fuck buddy" being a gay male usage, that makes sense.  The word
"buddy" is usually (though not always) applied to a man's male friend or
helper, e.g. the "buddy system" in swimming.  (However, one can imagine
a girl's swimming class using the buddy system.)

Therefore for a woman to refer to a male lover as a "fuck buddy" is odd,
since women do not generally refer to male friends as "buddies".
Equally odd for a man (or for that matter a woman) to refer to a female
lover as a "fuck buddy".  Hence the presence of the word "buddy" implies
a male-to-male relationship, with the f-word specifying it is a sexual
relationship.

OT: is anyone familiar with the term "best bud"?

    - Jim Landau

-----Original Message-----
From: Darla Wells [mailto:dlw3208 at LOUISIANA.EDU]
Sent: Tuesday, June 12, 2007 11:43 AM
Subject: Re: Another kind of buddy

When I was a beginning truck driver, I was told not to be saying that
someone was my buddy. When I asked why, I was told that the definition
of buddy is "someone who will go get a blow job and bring you back one."
I have no idea where he got that one, but I heard it a few times. This
was in Southern California in the 80's. I wonder if that comes from a
similar place as "fuck buddy."
Darla

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