[Ads-l] Just heard on a reality show:

Laurence Horn laurence.horn at YALE.EDU
Wed May 13 14:11:40 UTC 2015


> On May 13, 2015, at 8:28 AM, Amy West <medievalist at W-STS.COM> wrote:
> 
> On 5/13/15 12:00 AM, ADS-L automatic digest system wrote:
>> Date:    Tue, 12 May 2015 18:39:19 -0700
>> From:    Benjamin Barrett<gogaku at IX.NETCOM.COM>
>> Subject: Re: Just heard on a reality show:
>> 
>> This is something I struggle with. Since my mother's husband never
>> adopted me, my understanding is that he's not my stepfather even though
>> I usually refer to him that way when stating his relationship to me.
>> Neither Wiktionary nor the Oxford Dictionary site include the
>> requirement of adoption.
>> 
>> Benjamin Barrett
>> Formerly of Seattle, WA
> That's because there is no requirement for adoption. If your mother's husband legally adopted you, then he'd be your father, not your stepfather.
> 
> My cousin refers to her stepmother as her mother. But, her stepmother definitely took on that role when my cousin was very young, and it reflects the warm and loving relationship they have.
> 
> I never referred to my father's second wife as my stepmother, or I strongly resisted it. I was an adult when they married and did not like her.
> 
> They're fluid terms. The interviewee's mother may have had 3 marriages, and so may have a father, a stepfather, and now what? "Mother's husband" implies a certain emotional distance.

--although that implication can be overridden in context, even for biological fathers.  "Yes, I know Dad looks funny dressed that way, but he has no choice.  You have to remember, he *is* my mother's husband."  Granted, that's predicating something about the speaker's father rather than referring to him as "my mother's husband", which would usually be pretty odd except in rather extreme circumstances (some of which can be found by googling "My mother's husband is my dad/father").

LH

> Yeah, technically another stepfather, but we do use terms to show how we think or feel about people/things.
> 
> ---Amy West
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