[Ads-l] Negging

[Laurence Horn]

It doesn’t help that my spell-check thinks that when I write “nagging” I really mean (alternately) “begging” or “nagging”.


> On Mar 6, 2019, at 1:54 PM, Ben Zimmer <bgzimmer at GMAIL.COM> wrote:
> 
> On Wed, Mar 6, 2019 at 1:42 PM Dan Goncharoff <thegonch at gmail.com> wrote:
> 
>> Just came across this word. Don't remember seeing it.
>> 
>> Wikipedia says: Negging is an act of emotional manipulation whereby a
>> person makes a deliberate backhanded compliment or otherwise
>> flirtatious remark to another person to undermine their confidence and
>> increase their need of the manipulator's approval.[1] The term was
>> coined and prescribed by the pickup artist community,[1] several of
>> whose members have proposed it as an effective method to build
>> attraction.[2]
>> 
> 
> As noted on Wikipedia, this was popularized back in 2005 in Neil Strauss's
> book "The Game." Here's a cite from Wiktionary.
> 
> 2005, Strauss, Neil, quoting Erik von Markovik, The Game: Penetrating the
> Secret Society of Pickup Artists, Text Publishing Company, page 151:
> She's an 11. This is going to take some hardcore negging.
> 
> Also "neg" as a noun:
> 
> 2005, Strauss, Neil, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup
> Artists, Text Publishing Company, pages 20-21:
> The purpose of a neg is to lower a woman's self esteem while actively
> displaying a lack of interest in her--by telling her she has lipstick on
> her teeth, for example, or offering her a piece of gum after she speaks.
> 
> --bgz
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