[Ads-l] Saying Origin: You Can=?UTF-8?Q?=E2=80=99t_?=Live With Them, and You Can't Live Without Them

[ADSGarson O'Toole]

The saying appears on a few reference-type websites.

Wiktionary
https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/can%27t_live_with_them,_can%27t_live_without_them

Phrase Finder
https://www.phrases.org.uk/bulletin_board/37/messages/42.html

Idiom in The Free Dictionary by Farlax
https://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/you+can%27t+live+with+them%2C+you+can%27t+live+without+them

The first citation in Wiktionary is dated 1996.

Garson

On Mon, Sep 14, 2026 at 8:31 AM ADSGarson O'Toole
<adsgarsonotoole at gmail.com> wrote:
>
> Back in May 2026 Jonathan Lighter initiated a thread about the saying
> in the subject line.
> https://listserv.linguistlist.org/pipermail/ads-l/2026-May/169142.html
>
> Now, I have posted a QI article which is available here:
> https://quoteinvestigator.com/2026/09/14/live-with/

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