Reference needed

[elissa.asp at SMU.CA]

Dear Valentine,
I don't think you dreamed them. I think this might be from P. Fishman,
"Interaction: the work women do" dating from the late 70's. She had
transcripts. 
Regards, Elissa
>Dear colleagues,
>
>Thanks to all who answered my query. It seems that the example came from Tannen's book, "You Just Don't Understand." However, in the book she does not present any transcript for it, so I suppose I must have dreamed them at some point.
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>Ochs also has a similar example, see cite below.
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>Best,
>
>Valentina Pagliai
>CUNY Queens College
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>----- Original Message ----
>From: Amy Sheldon <asheldon at UMN.EDU>
>To: GALA-L at LISTSERV.LINGUISTLIST.ORG
>Sent: Wed, January 13, 2010 4:16:20 PM
>Subject: Re: [GALA-L] Reference needed
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>Hello Valentina,
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>As I recall, the excerpt here about the daycare payment conundrum is a similar example, whether or not it is the one you're thinking of:
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>1996 Ochs, E. & Taylor, C. "'The father knows best' dynamic in family dinner narratives" in _Gender articulated: Language and the socially constructed self_
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>A pdf is at Elinor Ochs' website at UCLA.
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>Amy Sheldon
>U of Minnesota
>
>On Jan 13, 2010, at 2:38 PM, Valentina wrote:
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>> Dear colleague,
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>> I am at a loss looking for an old example of interaction between husband and wife.
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>> Does anybody remember the old example of the wife telling the husband about trouble at work, just as a way to express her feelings? And the husband instead trying to offer advice?
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>> I need to look at the original transcripts and I cannot recall where they were published.
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>> Does anybody remember the reference?
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>> Thanks,
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>> Valentina Pagliai
>> CUNY Queens College
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